Happy Pride Month!
After some debating, I decided to share my story as well! I finally feel comfortable enough with myself to do so.
I'm an aromantic asexual lesbian.
How does being a lesbian work when I'm also aro ace? Good question. It's confusing as heck, but it's just how I feel. All three labels resonate with me a lot.
A couple of years ago I identified as a homoromantic asexual. I had been dating someone for a few years, and I started to realize that I just...wasn't happy. It wasn't my partner's fault at all, it was just that none of the typical romantic stuff we did really...felt good to me. It felt stifling and I found myself almost dreading it.
After a lot of beating myself up over not being a "good enough" partner, I finally came to the realization that I'm aromantic. I broke the news to my partner, who was unbelievably understanding, and we went back to just being friends. They've been one of my best friends for years, before and after our relationship, and I love them to bits.
It took me about a year to finally accept being aromantic. I hated it at first. I felt bad for breaking up with my partner, and I had just felt so comfortable calling myself a homoromantic ace that this new change was unwelcome. Did this mean I was going to be alone all my life?
Now I've fully embraced it. I love being aro. It's who I am, and it feels freeing. I don't feel alone because I have the best friends on the planet, willing to support me through thick and thin.
The point I want to get across with my story is this: Sometimes your sexuality will change. Sometimes drastically. And it's okay! It's a very fluid thing. There's nothing wrong with you, you're not being indecisive or anything like that. Just be willing to accept these changes as they come, even if it's hard for a while.
It will get better. <3
