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June 16, 2019 14:31:01 +0000 (UTC)

voxakuma

So with everyone sharing their stories about their identities and everything, I figured I might as well share mine.

As of now, I identify as aro/ace. Physical relationships are a no-go for me, and overall I’m not interested in having any relationships what-so-ever.

However, I did date someone once. She was a close online friend of mine, we befriended each other on Wattpad in 2016 because she really liked my art (even though it was shit at the time). She eventually left Wattpad, albeit temporarily, and it was one of the reasons I also decided to take a (temporary) leave. We reunited in spring 2017 when I made a new account and found her again, and we became closer than ever....

(warning: mentions of depression and suicide ahead)

...but she was also dealing with serious depression issues; there were several times when she stated she wanted to kill herself, though I did my best to talk her out of it. At one point, it got worse: she went through a bad breakup and was worrying that no one would ever love her. In order to make her happy again, I decided to become her girlfriend (earlier, she admitted to having a bit of a crush on me).

At the time, I was questioning if I was a lesbian, though I wasn’t completely sure. We had a pretty stable relationship, but we broke up in September of last year (the relationship lasted for 9 months). She said it would be better if we were just friends, and she felt that she was roping me into our relationship, blaming herself for being too clingy. Sadly, we drifted apart from there on out...

Anyway, I’m aro/ace, and I’m aware of the garbage that is the “ace discourse”. Since I hate discourse with a passion, I decided not to look into it, though I do know that there are people who hate on asexuals and claim that they’re “fake” or some bullshit like that. Seriously, some people just aren’t interested in physical relationships, what’s so wrong about that?!

However, I have a feeling I may be bi...but only when it comes to fictional characters. Like, characters like Tomoe or Deku make me want to smash my keyboard....hopefully that doesn’t make me a fake aro/ace.

Happy Pride Month, everyone. I’m glad this website and community can provide an LGBT+ friendly environment. Your identities are valid, don’t listen to those edgy 13-year olds who claim that you’re “mentally disabled” or “trying to get attention” or any of that bullshit. (seriously, those “memes” making fun of LGBT+ people make me sick.)