Happy Pride Month!

After some debating, I decided to share my story as well! I finally feel comfortable enough with myself to do so.

I'm an aromantic asexual lesbian.

How does being a lesbian work when I'm also aro ace? Good question. It's confusing as heck, but it's just how I feel. All three labels resonate with me a lot.

A couple of years ago I identified as a homoromantic asexual. I had been dating someone for a few years, and I started to realize that I just...wasn't happy. It wasn't my partner's fault at all, it was just that none of the typical romantic stuff we did really...felt good to me. It felt stifling and I found myself almost dreading it.

After a lot of beating myself up over not being a "good enough" partner, I finally came to the realization that I'm aromantic. I broke the news to my partner, who was unbelievably understanding, and we went back to just being friends. They've been one of my best friends for years, before and after our relationship, and I love them to bits.

It took me about a year to finally accept being aromantic. I hated it at first. I felt bad for breaking up with my partner, and I had just felt so comfortable calling myself a homoromantic ace that this new change was unwelcome. Did this mean I was going to be alone all my life?

Now I've fully embraced it. I love being aro. It's who I am, and it feels freeing. I don't feel alone because I have the best friends on the planet, willing to support me through thick and thin.

The point I want to get across with my story is this: Sometimes your sexuality will change. Sometimes drastically. And it's okay! It's a very fluid thing. There's nothing wrong with you, you're not being indecisive or anything like that. Just be willing to accept these changes as they come, even if it's hard for a while.

It will get better. <3

Can we just have a moment of silence for how gay this is

Edit: I guess this community loves gay content huh?

So with everyone sharing their stories about their identities and everything, I figured I might as well share mine.

As of now, I identify as aro/ace. Physical relationships are a no-go for me, and overall I’m not interested in having any relationships what-so-ever.

However, I did date someone once. She was a close online friend of mine, we befriended each other on Wattpad in 2016 because she really liked my art (even though it was shit at the time). She eventually left Wattpad, albeit temporarily, and it was one of the reasons I also decided to take a (temporary) leave. We reunited in spring 2017 when I made a new account and found her again, and we became closer than ever....

(warning: mentions of depression and suicide ahead)

...but she was also dealing with serious depression issues; there were several times when she stated she wanted to kill herself, though I did my best to talk her out of it. At one point, it got worse: she went through a bad breakup and was worrying that no one would ever love her. In order to make her happy again, I decided to become her girlfriend (earlier, she admitted to having a bit of a crush on me).

At the time, I was questioning if I was a lesbian, though I wasn’t completely sure. We had a pretty stable relationship, but we broke up in September of last year (the relationship lasted for 9 months). She said it would be better if we were just friends, and she felt that she was roping me into our relationship, blaming herself for being too clingy. Sadly, we drifted apart from there on out...

Anyway, I’m aro/ace, and I’m aware of the garbage that is the “ace discourse”. Since I hate discourse with a passion, I decided not to look into it, though I do know that there are people who hate on asexuals and claim that they’re “fake” or some bullshit like that. Seriously, some people just aren’t interested in physical relationships, what’s so wrong about that?!

However, I have a feeling I may be bi...but only when it comes to fictional characters. Like, characters like Tomoe or Deku make me want to smash my keyboard....hopefully that doesn’t make me a fake aro/ace.

Happy Pride Month, everyone. I’m glad this website and community can provide an LGBT+ friendly environment. Your identities are valid, don’t listen to those edgy 13-year olds who claim that you’re “mentally disabled” or “trying to get attention” or any of that bullshit. (seriously, those “memes” making fun of LGBT+ people make me sick.)

if we're talking Pride Month things, hello, it's me, your friendly neighbourhood aro(ace)! I don't particularly care about the ace part and I identify much more with being aro, so it's usually the only thing I mention. but yeah! we have arguably the ugliest flag design (why the greeeeeennnn) but it's still pretty nice to be aro

I actually used to id as bi for a long time; my family's very open-minded and as a child it was just kinda the most logical thing for a person to be to me, even above being straight. in hindsight, it's hard to figure out if my attraction to people just kinda ... faded out (cause sexuality can unfortunately be fluid and make everything even more complicated) or if I was imagining crushes that weren't there ... it's tough to recall what romantic love used to feel like to me, lol. (I'm inclined to believe it was the former tho, otherwise my friend and I went through all those fanfic clichés for nothing--) either way, it's hard to prove the absence of something, but I haven't been able to even force myself to see people in a romantic light in years, and it amazes myself sometimes how certain I am of this. honestly, I thought I'd never stop questioning, but nah, I'm just a tired aro (and my dislike for love stories & songs has grown exponentially with that realisation)

that aside, the fact that sexuality & gender is even a debate is sad to me; it really shouldn't matter unless you wanna date someone. maybe that's why I never really felt like I really belonged in the LGBT community, even when I was smugly identifying with the B part of the acronym. everyone's so loud and proud about it when they can be and I'm just kinda there, watching from afar. and now with [shivers] Ace Discourse being so prevalent, I also don't particularly feel welcomed there in the first place ... really, I just wanna be That One Girl That Doesn't Get Asked If She Has Any Marriage Plans Yet. (please, irl people, stop asking. the only marriage I will possibly consider is with my best friend for tax reasons.) everyone else just do their thing, I guess. as long as everyone's nice to each other, I really could not care less. the fact that Pride and the fight against homo- and transphobia and all its evil cousins is needed in this world really bums me out. I hope that some day, people will just let others live their life and be respectful of everyone who's also respectful back, regardless of things they can't change like these. but people are dumb and mean and hate things they can't understand which also bums me out

I guess the tl;dr of this post is that I exist in this weird void where I'm certainly not straight but also don't really identify with the LGBT community either. but that won't stop me from cheering ny'all on! Pride may be more of a distant thought to me, but it's important for many people, and seeing others be happy and confident with who they are makes me happy too. a lot of my friends are parts of the community much more than I am (over the past few years my peer group just grew less and less straight & cis lol), and I am absolutely ready to Fight any bigots in their name and just in general really. also if you're a TERF we cannot be friends, just to make that clear

okay have a good day!!!

What’s up gays

Its me

King Gay

im slowly beginning to realize that all the “crushes” I had on guys when I was young were lies i told myself as i wanted to feel like i was “normal” and not queer . . . but lemme tell you now that I AM queer and I am HERE TO STAY

I am very glad that this community exists! I do feel safe here and that’s relatively rare in my life (even though I know I am lot luckier than others due to other factors). I am going to try my best to keep being positive and not negative! I know I wasn’t the nicest on Sukutomo (due to bad life experiences) but I am going to try my hardest to be kind!! Thank you

i was so excited about pride i forgot to make a post about it,,,

Happy Pride Month! I always look forward to this time of year where I can be more gay than usual.

I'm a lesbian and I don't use as label for my gender as I don't really care about my own so I just let people call me a female (so its just better to call me that lol). I originally labeled myself as ace and then bisexual because I had the mindset that if I didn't like boys then I obviously didn't like anybody and later that if I liked girls then I of course had to like boys too (this was caused by my people believing ther was no way I was attracted to girls which always made me scared). I at some point realized that I could only like girls and not like boys and I felt so much happier at having a label that finally fit me.

My inside family supports me while my outside family doesn't really know/talk about it. My friends who know protect me with their lives and give me advice to I think I'm good so far.

Happy Pride Month!!!! 🏳️‍🌈 Everyone is special in their own way, it doesn't matter if they're lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, and transgender. They are still human beings.

Happy Pride month here are some HCs for the gals!!!

• Kasumi is trans feminine and bi!
• Arisa is bi!
• Rimi is pan!
• Saaya is a lesbian!
• Tae is nonbinary and bi-ace!
• Ran is a nonbinary lesbian!
• Tsugu is trans feminine and bi!
• Tomoe is an enby feminine leaning bi!
• Moca said ace lesbian rights!
• Himari is a demigirl lesbian!
• Aya is pan but leans towards feminine people!
• Maya is nonbinary and gay!
• Eve is a lesbian!
• Hina is a trans bi gal!
• Chisato is aroace!
• Lisa, Yukina, and Sayo are all poly lesbians! Sayo + Lisa are trans gals while Yukina is nonbinary!
• Ako is a smol bi force of chaos! (worm)
• Rinko is ace and pan!
• Kaoru is trans feminine and bi!
• Kokoro is an energetic aroace!
• Hagumi is nonbinary and nblw!
• Misaki is a genderfluid poly bi!
• And lastly Kanon is a trans gal whos aroace and qpps with Chisato!
• (Cringe culture is dead and these are just for fun so pls dont go starting "ship wars" or political nonsense in the comments im beggin yall)

i am Here for all your aro/ace posts!! i might feel, dare i say ... valid

happy pride month everyone!! since my nickname irl is tae and popipa fits the pan flag colors the most, I had to make a pan tae icon!! 💖💛💙

hi! i apologize for not having posted that much lately, i know at around this time last year, i was way more active, ahaha...

when i visited the site, i noticed how the site was decorated for pride month and that made me really happy!! i’m ace, myself, if anyone was wondering. still working out the entire specifics of my romantic orientation (i think i may be biromantic? possibly arospec?) it took me a long time to understand that, though, but once i learned of that term, suddenly everything made sense! i didn’t see myself as “frigid” or “broken” anymore, and for that, i couldn’t be more grateful.

for everyone else here, i hope you have a happy pride, and that you enjoy yourselves! stay safe, too! im sick right now, but ill get back to drawing again, soon!